The simple things in life! What could they possibly be? Have you even thought about it? Well simple things in life are just that. No big hoopla about it, nothing amazing about it. The simple things should simply warm the heart, maybe bring a tear of joy and a smile. People get so caught up in the materialistic things and forget about the simple things. Lets take this “Yellow Rose” for instance. This yellow rose signifies ”Joy” and “Friendship“. I think this is one of the most beautiful gifts to give. It’s simple and the impact is enormous. It’s bright and beautiful. It tells a lot about a person who is giving and receiving such a beautiful flower. I love “Yellow Roses” it means more to me than receiving anything else. True I love diamonds because they do last forever, but it’s something about a “Yellow Rose” that warms me inside and puts a great big smile on my face. Yes we all want the finer things in life. The new cars, fashionable clothing, new kicks, jewelry ect… Now sit back for a minute and ask yourself what is your “simple” things in life? Does it bring you joy? Do it put a smile on your face? Now that you thought about it, name some things that are simple to you. Is it friendship? Is it family? A job? or just life itself. Lets not take the simple things for granted. Remember the simple things are just as important as those material things that you look for to bring you happiness.

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Lets talk about “Relationships“. Relationships can be defined differently among people. You have relationships w/benefits simply called “friends w/benefits”. Some have multiple relationships and then there is marriage. Others just don’t know the meaning of relationship. Relationship is defined as “The way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected” A lot of relationships are one-sided! There should never be a 50/50 relationship. If you consider yourself in one, then somebody is being shorted. You should want more than 50% from your partner and you should give more than 50%.  While I was in a discussion about relationships one person said something that made so much sense he state “A MAN and I emphasize MAN… will appreciate the average days, love the good days, and weather through the bad days..” a relationship is not 50/50… if you are only… worth 50% of someone else, then get yourself together. If someone cannot give you 100% of themselves and accept 100% of you, then they are truly not worth your time.  Not a lot of people realize that within themselves  and most people will never realize that they are not 100%… they have been hurt and demoralized and abused. Now there are people who will try to love you through it, but if you are not ready to work through it with them, then YOU are your own problem… and maybe you should talk to someone who is a professional” (Edward Blake). 

If you break it down, we are worth way more than the value we place on ourselves. Why would you only want 50% of your partner? Don’t you want more? Aren’t you worth more? Put in your relationship what you want out of it. You can’t expect him/her to give, give, give and you just take, take, take. Set back and re-evaluate your priorities. You can’t get 100% if you are not 100% yourself. Focus on self-love, motivation and uplifting. Take the time out to know your value and worth! Never accept less than 100%. Men and women need to realize that relationships are of “one”. One can’t receive more than the other. I know a lot of people want to be met half way. This to can be true, but meet at 100% and not 50%.

Marriage is the same way! I hear people say all the time. A man must bring at least 50% to the table. Well hell, what is that 50%? A job? car? money? How can you determine the 50% rule? You can’t! In marriage NOTHING is 50%. It’s 100% or nothing. Even if you are a housewife, there is 100% you have to put into it. So lady’s don’t except 50%, don’t just settle because you are lonely. Men stop shorting these women, stop giving just a  bit to keep them around. Give them your all, give that 100% and you will be surprised of what you get in return. Women stop enabling these men. Let them give their full potential. The more you do the less he will do and at the end you are the one being shorted. Allow them to be Men in the relationship.

Men and women, if you are not READY to give that 100% then let them go. Stop being selfish just to keep them around when you are ready for that next step! This is unfair. Allow them to find that right person who will give them the 100% they deserve.

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Whitney Houston our latest death. She was a beautiful soulful singer who have touch many across the world. She has had a struggle with drugs, alcohol and prescription drugs. Ultimately these things could have played a part in her death. Some would like to blame her ex-husband Bobby Brown..but can we really?  Addiction is a disease, some would like to think otherwise. She was an addict! Who saw this coming? Was there any intervention? What is the message here?

Murder-Suicide! What drives a person to do this? Is it anger? Selfishness? Is it to get back at the other person? Are there signs to watch for? How do we in-convene? One incident I want to speak on is a murder-suicide that happened in Va. A father decided to murder his twin girls and then off himself. Reports say he love his girls and always was there for them. So why would he do such a horrible act? Was it to hurt the mother of his kids? Was it depression? Was it the economy? Reports say it was to get at the mother of his kids for leaving him. Such a selfish act! Why would you take two innocent lives because of anger towards someone else. Now ask yourself did he show any signs of this? What could have been done? What is the message here?

Teens and guns have been a serious issue lately. I seen more teens with guns and shooting incidents that could last me a life time. Some kids have ”NO” clue and NEVER see the bigger picture. They think guns are fun but lack the experience and knowledge about them. Five teens have been involved with guns and unfortunately death occurred.  What could have been done to prevent this? Who if any is to blame? What is the message?

Each incident is a message. We just have to take the time to figure out what the message is. Does it relate to you personally? Was the message drug awareness, depression, gun control or everyday issues can also affect the Fame and Fortunate. What ever the message is adhere to it and use it to help benefit someone else. Don’t ignore the signs and symptoms. Reach out and lend a hand, make a phone call. Let people know you are willing to help even if it’s just an ear!

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At the end Bonnie Sweeten, the con artist, was able to use America’s racially-biased perceptions against it.  I cringe to think about how many innocent black men throughout history have served long prison sentences because of the lies of all the “Bonnie Sweetens“. Due to the fact we have some good upstanding law enforcement who decided to dig a little deeper realized this was all a lie. They figured out she was just as much a criminal than the one she pegged to be. This woman was not just a con-artist but she stole over a million dollars from a law firm and family for years.

 Had this happened many, many years ago, Ms. Bonnie would have gotten away with it all and the “black man” would have been doomed. Ask yourself this question “Why was this so easy for her to put this incident on the “black man” Is it because of the media? I don’t want to ponder on the “white woman” because our black men have to step up as well. Stop giving society/media something to talk about.

Uplift yourself and become better citizens. Go to school get your education and be that business owner or lawyer. Pull your pants up and present yourself better. No this will not stop them from pegging you..but it will give them less to talk about. Thanks for reading “WandaThinks“

"RESPECT ME FOR WHO I AM"

The value of women should not come from a man saying “I Love You“. Women should value themselves with the utmost respect. Never allow anyone especially a man to determine your worth! Women need to stop referring to themselves as “BITCHES” and make the man respect you and treat you like the queen you are. I’m not just talking about black women, I’m talking about “All” women. Women allow men to take their away pride. Some women allow men to enter their lives and truly take over leaving them in shambles. These women fall even harder and now the trend begins. They begin to continue to find a replacement man. These men have no respect for women, even though 9x’s out of 10 they were raised by a strong “woman“. Men ask yourself “Why do you treat women with no respect?“.” Would you treat your mother this way?“Women stop with the degrading whether it’s between you and your girls or you and your man. Some women feel they need a man to be valuable or feel good. This is not true! Women, we are the strength, backbone and lifeline to all men. Stop accepting “bullshit” meaning, don’t settle just to have a man. Wait for that right one! When he come along, he will treat you right. A good man, will always take care of  his family, and be that provider he should be!. He will never allow his family to fall short because of his shortcomings. Women stand tall, demand more and he will give it or he will move on. If he shows no change than let him go. Stop holding on to something that is not there. Allow your self-worth to take over and be a better woman and person for someone who will value you. Thanks for reading “WandaThinks“

There is a lot of controversy surrounding this film. George Lucas set out to do the “Unthinkable” and put out a movie that provided an ”All Black” cast. With that, he did not have any sponsors who

 wanted to back him. Paramount nor Fox and many others did not want to touch this. So Lucas footed the bill himself, he put of $58 million of his own money (self financed). This movie was actually made in 2009 but never released until January 2012. Directed by Anthony Hemingway they both have worked hard to bring this movie to surface. We need to support this movie and go see it at the theaters. Why? Because it’s about the “Cause“. The “Cause” is much greater than the movie itself. If we don’t stand for something we will fall for anything. Why shouldn’t we be able to have an all black cast movie that is supported by the biggest of names? Why must we sit back and play the same roles that is thrown before us? George Lucas who put out one of the biggest movies such as “StarWars” did a tribute the greatest “Airmen” of time “Tuskegee Airmen” and nobody wants to support. Not many wanted to view it because it was an “all black” cast. As a disgrace people would rather get a “bootleg” copy than to support it in the theaters. Granted there will be other ”all black” movies but they will never hit the “Mainstream” unless we support. We must support our own. This isn’t about “George Lucas” or Cuba Gooding Jr. If we don’t support this movie and show that it can stand with the best, then their hard work was in “vain“. Thanks for reading “Wanda Thinks“

It seems like people have lost a lot of self respect for themselves as well as others. Over time, most people tend to follow others instead of being leaders. Through out the years time and people have changed. As the old people will tell you is history will repeat it self. Does that go with the style of clothing too? Well Of course, “Bell Bottoms” known now as “Wide Legged” pants, “Knicker Bockers” is now “Capri’s“. One thing though that is now a trend in these days is “Sagging“.  Sagging has trended for years now. Where did it start? Why has it grown world wide? Who thought this was a good fashion statement? This fashioned has crossed boundaries, into communities that once was considered upper-class. It has crossed genders, races of all kinds. What can we do to stop it?

One way is to get the community together, maybe even hold a conference to how and why this “Sagging” took place. Will it stop? Will people listen? Probably not, but something has to be done. No-one wants to see another persons underwear as they walk in front of us. How can we get these young people to gain more respect for themselves? Should we hold seminars in communities where this is more prevalent? Should we now find them money? This will take a lot of man power which not city or county can handle. Lets start with “US“, lets continue to teach our young generation to be more respectful of themselves and others. Hopefully they will catch on! Thanks for reading “Wanda Thinks“

As I slow down for the night, I sit back and watch my husband rock his head to “

Music is defined as; The art of organizing tones in a coherent sequence so as to produce a unified and continuous composition. During work ours we here classical or soft (elevator)music. This is to sooth the atmosphere and make your work environment calm. Now on the other hand if you are at your desk or office you listen to your favorite RnB hits like R Kelly “12 Play” album or  to bring it up a notch you throw on a Lil Trey Songz “Ready” album. This puts you in mood, happy upbeat tone. Getting all  your work done on time. Different type of music puts you in a different mode. Now if you throw on some “Knuck If You Buck” you are getting in that wild mode and ready to throw elbows..LoL. Some songs bring back certain memories that happened in your life at that very moment. I can name a few…Can You?..LoL.

Music has crossed genres in ways we never thought it would. Starting with Run DMC “Walk This Way” with Aerosmith. That song crossed genres like never before. Another person who crossed over was Nelly ft Tim McGraw with the song “Over and Over“. I remember as a child with big old house speakers, my brother was blasting “White Horse” by Laid Back, Earthwind and Fire and George Clinton.

As you see music has changed and so has the musical taste in people. Lets embrace music in away that it is accepted across the board. You never know when that one song comes on…it’s at the very moment where it helped you out and saved someone from heartache and pain. Live, Laugh and Love Music. Thanks for reading “WandaThinks“

Today marks a day that “African-Americans“can be proud. Martin Luther King endure a lot in his day and unfortunately died before he could accomplish more than he has. Over time his day became a National Holiday even though it was first shared with Lee, Jackson. Eventually it became “Martin Luther King” Day. With all the bombings, being jailed, peaceful protesting, marching in the streets of Alabama, Mississippi and even in DC we have come to see something we have NEVER thought would happen…you guessed it an “Afro-American President!” With that being said, do you think he should have his own statue?  Should he have his very on holiday? What about his face on  currency (besides the brown penny)?..lol. This is a monumental moment in life and regardless of how much people hate it or despise it…it is “History”  What are your thoughts? What do you think he should have in his memory? Thanks for reading “WandaThinks“

Now that you can become an “Ordain Minister” online with the stroke of keys from your computer or laptop you have to ask yourself is “YOUR” marriage legal? If you found out years later that your marriage was null and void due to scams such as this, what would you do? Would you feel less married? Would you be upset and angry? Has this happened to you? Is there any other legal way to correct this wrong? With scams all over the world and new ones coming up daily, what can we do to protect ourselves?

Here is a link for you to become a free ”Ordained Minister” All you need is your email…SMH! http://www.theamm.org/products-page/ministry-packages/minister-licensing-package/

What is your take on this?